My boyfriend and I have some incredible love making sessions and I probably shouldn't complain, but he can only come once and then that's it. Is there any way I can help him come again or at least prolong his pleasure so he doesn't come so quickly?
So, you want your boyfriend to last longer or come more than once? Two different answers, so let's get down to it.
If you want your boyfriend to come more than once, put some buffer time into between his orgasms. The average time men last once they have penetrated their partner is 2 minutes. Yup, you read right. 2 minutes. Now some men last longer and some men pop quicker, but either way, if you want him to come more than once, you have to give him some time in between ejaculations. Have him go down on you, play with your puss, take a snack break! Men have to have a relax time in between ejaculations. For young men, that relax time needed can be as little as 30 seconds before they can get hard, and come again. As men age, that time in between ejaculations can be 2 hours to 3 days. So, instead of worrying when is he going to be able to come again, use the time to play with other parts of the body or have him play more with your tid bits.
If you want him to last longer, he could wear a cock ring; that can help prevent ejaculation for a bit. Place it on the penis when the penis is half erect. Putting the cock ring on can be tons of fun and you can even get cock rings that vibrate against your clit! (Yay vibrations on the clitoris!)
He could thrust into you with his tummy muscles vs his butt muscles. Thrusting with the butt speeds up ejaculation - who knew? He could also breathe in with his nose and out with his mouth versus breathing in and out through his mouth. We are a nation of shallow breathers (in and out through the mouth is known as shallow breathing) and in doing so, we decrease out amount of pleasure time.
Don't have him use desensitizing creams, it defeats the whole point of sex - who wants to do it if you can't feel anything?!
You could also have him spend more time on you before you invite him into your body, or you could stimulate yourself while he is in you. There are lots of small vibrators you can use to fondle yourself with. Keep you clitoris open for some frisky fingers to fondle around...that way, you can come while he is in you.
There are many other techniques that can be used to address your questions, if you're interested take the "Gentlemen, Start Your Engines Class" being held at the Miko Learning and Resource Center. It's a blast and will cover much, much more! Good Luck and Happy Playing!
